random thoughts

so i have this thought. how well do we ever really know anyone? this thought was precipitated by a lot of things... but mostly a misunderstanding about my boyfriend's personality by his closest friends. basically, they feel that he doesn't like to party and doesn't like to drink and essentially will be moody and boring if taken to parties.

now, i know this to be completely false. not because i have some extremely biased view of him, but because i've seen him in action at parties and i know that his dislike of parties and other similar events isn't rooted in some deep seeded hatred for all things fun. but rather, its a hatred of parties where there are hundreds of people he doesn't know.

in moscow, he was so fun and instigated a lot of the stuff we all did and that was because he knew us all and was comfortable being himself. i really liked that. then at RIT he was quiet at the house parties we went to and i realized it was because he only knew like three people there. also, he doesn't hate alcohol. in fact, he drank with the rest of us in russia. but what he has a problem with is when people use alcohol as an excuse to do things that they want to do anyway but can't because they need that way out (i.e. blaming alcohol).

so what i don't understand is how people who've known him for over two years, including his ex girlfriend who he dated for two years, can be so wrong about him??? this makes me wonder how well my friends know me or how well i know them???

i mean, i know i've been guilty of being blind to things before. for example there were a lot of things about my ex boyfriend that i didn't realize or see until after we broke up.

i know this is totally random. but it was bugging me. so i had to get it out of my system lol.

any thoughts... feel free to comment.